“I’ve been dating my babe for only three months, and I’m already seeing things that don’t make sense.

Last week, I was trying to make an online payment, but my bank app was acting up. My girlfriend was with me, so l asked her to help me do it on her phone. She did, and that same hour, I sent the money back to her.

The mistake I made was I didn’t hide my phone screen like most men would while making the transfer.

She was sitting beside me, looking straight at my screen. She saw my balance. She saw my PIN. But because, well, she’s my babe, I didn’t think much of it.

Two days later, she asked to borrow my phone to check something. I didn’t even hesitate— just gave it to her.

Later that evening, I tried to make a transfer and noticed my balance was #150,000 short.
I checked my sms alert and email notifications history. The only transfers I saw were the ones I made. No debit alert, no email notification. But I knew what was there before. My sp!r!t told me to dig deeper.

That’s when I saw it. A #150,000 transfer to her from my mobile banking app. She had sent the money to herself and carefully deleted all traces-SMS, email alerts, everything. I called her immediately. “Babe, you transferred #150k from my account?” She didn’t even sound guilty.

“Ah ahn, you have over 15 m!ll!on naira in that account alone. What’s #150k to you? You sef, relax. It’s not a big deal.”

I kept quiet.

Not a big deal? So bcos I have money, she can just take it without asking? The part that’s messing with me is— why didn’t she just ask? We’ve been dating for only three months, Is this who she really is?

Now I’m wondering—should I ask for my money back, or will I look petty? I’m not one of those “what do you bring to the table?” kind of men, and I also don’t believe in giving women monthly allowance because you’re not my staff. But I give cos I’m not stingy. There’s never been a time she asked for money that I didn’t give. In fact, most times, she doesn’t even have to ask—I just give.

Still, this just seems cheap, classless, and desperate.

Because if in just three months she has the audacity to do this, what will happen if I marry her? Will I wake up one day to find my account empty, with her telling me to relax because I have more?

Am I overreacting, or is this the kind of red flag that only a f001 would ignore?”